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Books
Recommendation: Use your local library and the free Libby app for audiobooks. Most people retain 79% when reading and 53% when listening, so listen twice when the material is thick or rewind if you zone out. Consider taking notes, blogging, and discussing what you’re reading; changing your thoughts into speech or writing solidifies information.
The Courage to be Disliked
by Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake Koga: Self-forgiveness, self-care, and mind decluttering. Liberates the courage to change and ignore self-imposed limitations.
Never Split the Difference
Negotiating as if Your Life Depended on It, by Chris Voss & Tahl Raz: Life is full of negotiation and compromises: buying a car, requesting a salary, deliberating with your partner. Take emotional intelligence and intuition to the next level.
How to Control Your Anxiety
Before It Controls You
by Albert Ellis: Classic self-help from a respected pioneer of psychotherapy. Your unrealistic expectations produce your needless anxiety not related to survival.
The Fearless Organization
Creating Psychological Safety in the Workplace, by Amy C. Edmondson: Practical guidance for teams and organizations. What good does talent do if no one is able to speak their mind?
Start with Why
How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action, by Simon Sinek: The third most popular TED video of all time. His framework will change how you view your goals.
The Blessing
by John Trent: The gift children desire – demonstrated love and approval from parental relationships. A discussion of meaningful touch, a spoken message, attaching high value, picturing a special future, and an active commitment.
Adult Children of Emotionally
Immature Parents
by Lindsay C. Gibson: How to recognize and come to terms with emotional immaturity, instability, and selfishness in parents. What to do, how to adjust the internal response, especially when our parents are opposed to recognition or change.
Attached
The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love, by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller: Determine attachment style, build stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.
Boundaries
When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life, by Henry Cloud & John Townsend: The definitive work on the subject.
The Body Keeps the Score
Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma, by Bessel van der Kolk M.D: How trauma reshapes both body and brain, compromising pleasure, engagement, self-control, and trust. Paths to recovery.
Give & Take
By Adam Grant: Success is dependent on our interactions. Understand the forces of success, revolutionize your approach to work, interactions, and productivity.
Originals
by Adam Grant: How to recognize a good idea, speak up without getting silenced, build a coalition of allies, choose the right time to act, and manage fear and doubt; how parents and teachers can nurture originality in children; and how leaders can build cultures that welcome dissent.
The Anatomy of Peace
by The Arbinger Institute: We systematically misunderstand the root of conflict and accidentally continue problems. How to heal relationships.
Leadership & Self-deception
by The Arbinger Institute: How we blind ourselves to our true motivations and sabotage effectiveness & happiness with self-justification. How to change.
Deep Study
Maps of Meaning
by Jordan Peterson. Analysis of the psychological patterns which shape society.
Incerto
by Nassim Taleb. A discussion of ontology and probability.
The Origins & History
of Consciousness
by Erich Neumann. Evolutionary psychology at its finest.
Civilization & Its Discontents
by Sigmund Freud. The social psychology of group decision-making.
Character & Neurosis
by Claudio Naranjo. Psychosis, as defined by the Enneagram personality construct.
Thus Spake Zarathustra
Beyond Good & Evil
by Frederich Nietzsche.
Fiction
Fiction benefits the brain and relaxation as much as exercise or nature. Great fiction is also a map of behaviors we can follow toward positive or negative outcomes and gives us outside perspectives on our relationship challenges and individual existence. I recommend starting with the laudable Hugo Awards to find great books or audio books.
Face your flaws, you’ll notice the change
Courage makes the difference between health and psychosis.
Courage comes from experience and insight;
Therapy heals and coaching supports progress.
Podcasts
Akimbo
Understand work and entrepreneurship.
S1 E2: Status roles: Status roles drive us.
S3 E2: You're it: The power (and the myth) of getting picked.
S3 E3: Honest signals: Lessons from the poisonous dart tree frog.
S4 E22: Possibility and Enrollment: Both work to create cultural change.
The Science of Success
Mental Fitness and Creating the Life You Want with Dr. Sasha Heinz: overcome fear and anxiety and transform your life. No one’s actually stuck, but we FEEL stuck because what we want – goals, desires, change – are bumping up against an emotional roadblock or subconscious belief.
Harvard Business Review: HBR IdeaCast
614: Women at Work: Make Yourself Heard: Communication: 1) speech pattern differences in genders; 2) how to be assertive in meetings; and 3) deal with interrupters.
603: When ‘Best Practices’ Backfire: So-called best practices actually hold us back. Defy Industry Norms and Reinvigorate Your Business.
591: Basic Competence Can Be a Strategy: Why seemingly common-sensical management practices are so hard to implement. Only 6% of firms globally are qualified as highly well-managed. “Why Do We Undervalue Competent Management?”
578: 4 Behaviors of Top-Performing CEOs: CEO performance. 1) deciding with speed and conviction 2) engaging for impact 3) adapting proactively 4) delivering reliably.
574: Sheryl Sandberg & Adam Grant on Resilience: How to build resilience in yourself, team, and organization.
Jordan B. Peterson Podcast
Excellent for self-sabotaging men or individuals dealing with narcissism in religion.
S2 E17 – The inevitability, utility, and danger of hierarchies: tribalism, factions, and coming to terms with your role in community
#47 – Warren Farrell – The Absolute Necessity of Fathers: ideologues, identity-politics, systemic patriarchal prejudice, and oppression.
#15 – How to Change the World: Properly. Truth is the route to societal improvement — and why that starts with the individual.
#5 – The Psychology of Redemption: Redemption, transformation in therapy.
#4 – Religion, Myth, Science, Truth: Religion, Myth, Science and Truth.
#3 – The Necessity of Virtue: Virtue, beyond religious contexts.
#2 – Tragedy vs. Evil: Distinguishing evil from tragedy, and dealing with both.
#1 – Reality and the Sacred: introduction to myths and religious representations.
Freakonomics
379 How to Change Your Mind: Barriers to changing our mind – ego, overconfidence, inertia, cost, and community, but shouldn’t we be encouraging people to change their minds? And how can we get better at it ourselves?
306: How to Launch a Behavior-Change Revolution: "There are driving forces that drive you in a particular direction. There are restraining forces which are preventing you from going there. If you want to achieve change in behavior, there is one good way to do it and one bad way to do it. The good way to do it is by diminishing the restraining forces, not by increasing the driving forces."
The Tony Robbins Podcast
Excellent for self-empowerment of forward momentum for professionals.
The #1 Decision You Will Ever Make: How most people make unconscious decisions based on habit and conditioning, and believe that suffering is an inevitable part of life. We all have the power to step out of these suffering states, and cultivate a life of love, joy, gratitude, playfulness, growth and appreciation.
In Pursuit Of Your Why: James Altucher On Purpose, Hunger And How To Create A Compelling Future. Make your vision real. The science of building wealth and the tactical investment strategies to create financial abundance.
How To Create Life-changing Moments: The Power of Moments – the Heath brothers on the most memorable and meaningful experiences in our lives. How to intentionally create experiences that enrich and enhance our lives.
Are You A Giver Or A Taker?: Adam Grant on How businesses can get the most out of their employees, and how employees can get the most out of their jobs. They cover givers and takers, innovators and original thinkers.
Jordan Harbinger On Social Influence: How Nonverbal Communication and First Impressions Impact Our Actions and Reactions. Building a better business starts with building better relationships. Social capital is trust, understanding, and even loyalty that will allow your business to thrive, even in uncertain times.
The 3 Steps To A Breakthrough: Creating a breakthrough: strategy, story and state. The way you approach a goal, your beliefs about your life, and your mental game form the foundation for any success or failure.
The Ultimate Success Formula: Joseph Mcclendon III On The Four Steps To Getting What You Want.
From The Vault: Tony Robbins & Deepak Chopra: The principles of lifelong health, the spiritual forces that shape our lives, and the immense power of the mind-body connection.
From The Vault: Tony Robbins & Jay Abraham: World-class Marketing, Strategic Innovation And How To Grow A Business Exponentially. Jay Abraham on simple strategies to dramatically increase your income.
Episode 11: The Psychology Of Success: Peter Diamandis. When a business is struggling, most business owners shift their entire focus to strategy. But 80% of the time, the chokehold on your business is actually your psychology. Execution creates greater results than theory. And execution starts with your psychology.
Episode 8: The #1 Secret To Productivity: Charles Duhigg. Our habit-making behavior forms the core of our lives and businesses. As much as 40-45% of our daily activities are habits, so get your habits right to reach your goals.
